Friday, November 30, 2007

11/29 Dialogue Report

Updated 11:30am 12/4 **name correction (see below)

This entry is an in-depth account of the dialogue for preventing violence against women, which took place on Thursday November 29, in City Hall's tenth-floor conference room.

Sections include

    *Present
    *Control Tactics
    *Public Comment
    *Contributors
    *Suggestions
    *Outcomes

PRESENT

Deena Tyler and I arrived early to City Hall for the Committee of the Whole to prepare for the dialogue. We set up photo frames with pictures and names of the women killed in Lansing during 2007. The Power Wheels from Duluth laid against the conference room white board, and a fact sheet about domestic violence and homelessness sat in front of the TV cased in a wood cabinet. Handouts were placed along the table where city officials sit and the seats for the public.

Jessica Narodowiec arrived next. This Lansing resident visited City Council on several occasions to address ongoing harassment she as well as other neighbors (for years!) have faced from someone on their street. Ms. Narodowiec secured a PPO against this individual, yet the person has continued harassment. The person turned themself in after not appearing at court and then was released on bond by a judge who disregarded another judge's no-bond order.

Also present were anti-violence advocates Kathleen Miller for MSU's Sexual Assault Crisis Intervention program and Erica Schmittdiel for MSU Safe Place.

Rina Risper, President and Publisher of The New Citizen Press, arrived after committee started but before the dialogue began.

Council Members Jeffries, Kaltenbach, Leeman, Matt, Quinney, and Wood were in attendance. Cm. Allen is out of state until next week, so Cm. Dunbar was the only member absent who was in town.

City Hall Regulars Charlene Decker, Darnell Oldham Str., John Pollard, and Ms. Timmons were there as well.

Mr. Jerry Ambrose, proxy for Mayor Bernero, left for most of the dialogue time, yet was present for other committee business. Disappointing, since I encouraged the Mayor to join or send someone in his absence. Even Mayor's aide Mr. Joe McDonald was present during committee business early on but was absent during the dialogue.

Additionally, **Mr. Michael Matthis, Legal Advisor to the LPD, was present for most of committee business including the dialogue. (Mr. Matthis attend The Safety Union after I requested the City Attorney's Office to send an attorney.)


CONTROL TACTICS

People trickled into the conference room while Ms. Narodowiec and Ms. Tyler swapped stories about surviving violence and perpetrators. VP Cm. Jeffries arrived and offered people coffee.

With the room mostly filled, I was approached by Diana Bitely, who works in the Council Office. She bared a message from Pres. Cm. Leeman: Would I remove the photo frames until our dialogue began? Because other business was scheduled beforehand.

I replied that I would rather not, but that the message didn't sound like a request but a direction. Consequently, I asked some people if they would hold the frames to display the pictures and names of the women who were murdered during 2007. (Thanks to Ms. Miller, Mr. Pollard, Mr. Oldham, and Ms. Timmons for their assistance!)


PUBLIC COMMENT

During public comment, Ms. Narodowiec and another Lansing resident Barb Kowalk spoke as survivors of violence. (Special thanks to Ms. Kowalk, who is my aunt, for attending.) Advocates Ms. Miller and Ms. Schmittdiel also made comment.

In particular, Ms. Schmittdiel conveyed information on behalf of colleagues who were unable to be present: Two incidents with Lansing 911 dispatchers who declined taking contact information from callers regarding violence directed at women, and the absence of promised police officers on both occasion.

Executive Director of the Fraternal Order of Police Tom Krug, who made public comment regarding surveillance camera funding, encouraged Ms. Schmittdiel to lodge complaints regarding those dispatch incidents. (A complaint form is available on the LPD web site under the menu option Information.)


CONTRIBUTORS

As scheduled, Ms. Tyler shared part of her survival story to lend insight to city officials as a veteran of violence. (Credit goes to Ms. Tyler for coining this phrase in one of her poems.)

I explained the absence of Andy Field, Eastside resident and community activist, who declined to attend. Understandably, sharing even part of one's survival story is very taxing, let alone doing so in public with strangers who happen to be city officials. As a result, I stepped in to share part of my survival story.

Ms. Rispers shared impromptu about part of her survival story. She stayed at EVE's House a number of years ago, and continues to advocate publicly for survivors and against violence.


SUGGESTIONS

Cm. Wood: Resource info about assistance with violence given to new Lansing residents. Learn what school district programs exist related to the issue. Council Members pledge to talk with kids in elementary schools about how to treat each other. City TV messages about assistance.

Cm. Kaltenbach: Communications through Lansing Neighborhood Council. More concentration on crime fighting efforts at the neighborhood level. A Parks and Recs program.

VP Cm. Jeffries: Special programs on City TV. Tracking responses by judges regarding the effectiveness of PPOs and bonds. Partner with Ingham County Human Resources, which has a bigger budget for this issue.

Cm. Quinney: Early prevention through public TV, schools, and neighborhood associations.

Cm. Matt: Information via the City web site. Budget in May for Human Resources.

Pres. Cm. Leeman: Human Resources Department programs and initiatives. Invite Board members from End Violent Encounters to committee meetings. Encourage Council Members to sit on EVE's Board.

Darnell Oldham, Sr.: Employment training requirements, like the State of Michigan, with information about stalking, etc.

Jessica Narodowiec: Public messages where survivors get information without the presence of a perpetrator - bulletin board, PSA during the holidays.

MDH: The Michigan Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence's publication A Vision for Prevention, which makes recommendations for local government to prevent violence against women. Breaking the silence around violence by developing conversations with children, and in schools, neighborhoods, and City Hall. Bring advocates and survivors to 2008 City Council meetings and committees, for presentations and tributes.


OUTCOMES

Committee of the Whole agreed to keep the prevention of violence against women as a pending matter through the New year.

A sub-committee will be formed to follow through on the suggestions made during the dialogue.

Advocates who were present at the dialogue will be contacted about future conversations on the issue.

Wednesday, November 21, 2007

The Sex Trade

A hot topic on the Eastside of Lansing these days is prostitution, one spoke on the historical wheel of the sex trade.

Back in October, the Lansing State Journal published an article headlining the arrest of 11 women in sting operations on the Eastside. The sting targets were women who sell sex (though of course there are men who sell sex too).

These women have been called by a range of names depending on the point in time and politics behind the mind. Here are just a few:

* prostitute
* sex worker
* courtesan

More word associations are found in The Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary:

Synonyms: harlot, whore.
Related Words: coquette, flirt, libertine, siren, tempter, temptress, wench.


WHY THINK AS YOU DO?

What are your thoughts and why?

Disclaimer: I'm inviting responses on what you think as long as you indicate why you think it. Posting factoids from this or that article without your thoughtful reply will be deleted (hint - Gary!).

Here are some spokes to get the wheel rolling:

Tuesday, November 20, 2007

Proactive, Not Reactive

I visited City Council last night, 11/19, and spoke about how Lansing needs proactive measures to prevent violence and its targeting against women.

Visit this e-forum for the Lansing State Journal to read my public comment.

Monday, November 19, 2007

Zombies Unite!

I wanted to pass on info about an event taking place in our community this Friday, November 23, which is Buy Nothing Day for the world!

"...environmentalists, social activists and concerned citizens in as many as 65 countries will hit the streets for a 24-hour consumer fast in celebration of the 15th annual Buy Nothing Day..."

Lansing-area zombies are uniting at the West entrance of the Meridian Mall at 2pm. Anyone who shows up 15 minutes early can get assistance with make-up to become a zombie. Local organizers say,

"It'll be fun. Remember: The only thing we'll consume on Buy Nothing Day is brains! The more zombies, the better!"

Wednesday, November 14, 2007

Survivors at City Hall

Updated 7:43am 11/25

PRESS RELEASE – November 25, 2007 - City Talks about Violence

Lansing Officials Talk with Survivors and Advocates to Prevent Violence Against Women

Upcoming Lansing City Council Committees are scheduled to discuss preventing violence against women with survivors and advocates at City Hall's tenth-floor conference room. Public comment is scheduled at the beginning of these committee meetings, and individuals may speak up to three minutes.

On Thursday November 29, at 1:30pm, Committee of the Whole meets with survivors Andy Field, community activist and Eastside resident; and Deena Tyler, a former self-defense trainer and an invited artist at EVE's domestic violence candlelight vigil in 2006 and 2007.

On Wednesday, December 5, at 2pm, the Public Safety Committee meets with Cindie Alwood from the Women's Center of Greater Lansing; and Chris Singer, a survivor currently working for the Michigan Peace Team, and formerly with Sexual Assault Services of Calhoun County and the Prostitution Round Table of Grand Rapids.

For details about these events, visit The Women Writers blog or email deyofthephoenix[at]hotmail.com.


WHY ARE THESE TALKS HAPPENING?

Great question! And there are a couple of answers...

#1 City Council Members suggested to schedule this kind of discussion format back in September as we spoke about safety and preventing violence against women. Specifically, Cm. Bill Matt (Ward 3) suggested Public Safety, and Cm. Wood (At-Large) suggested Committee of the Whole.

#2 From my conversations with Council Members in September, I learned that at least three Cms. had not sought out survivors of violence for input about safety policy making. So the survivors are coming to City Hall to share perspectives informed by firsthand experiences about how to prevent other women from being violated by violence.

#3 Generating public awareness about preventing violence against women is recommended by the Michigan Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence through their publication A Vision for Prevention: Key Issues and Statewide Recommendations for the Primary Prevention of Violence Against Women in Michigan (2003).

Sunday, November 11, 2007

Book Release - 12/2

Scroll down all the way for the flyer!

Guess what?! My official release of Blame It on Eve! happens December 2. It's Gallery Walk Sunday at the Grand Cafe/ Sir Pizza of Lansing in Old Town, right by the river. Don't miss it!

Joining me are guests Musician Barb Barton and Poets *Deena Tyler, **Lisa Sayles, Chey Davis, and Susan Harris!

Everybody Reads (Eastside book store and more!) will be selling our books and music thanks to owner Scott Harris! He recently accepted my proposal to carry local artists' merchandise. Thanks, Scott!

For more about Blame It on Eve! visit my blog on MySpace deyofthephoenix and check out the August 27 post.

Thursday, November 8, 2007

Way to Go!

Good work, Ms. Anaya Keaton, for getting a self-defense class going at the BCI!

Ms. Keaton is a regular at poetry open mics in our area. She also made public comment at City Council in September about preventing violence against women, and assisted greatly with the SPEAK OUT for Safety.

Wednesday, November 7, 2007

The Safety Union - 11/11

COMMUNITY EVENT
Updated Nov. 11

Thanks to those who could make it, including Chris Singer (MPT), Sgt. Joe Dionise (LPD), Matthew Mathis, Esq. (Legal Advisor to the LPD), Elise Harvey (Peace Education Center), Erica Schmittdiel (MSU Safe Place), Beth (neighborhood watch member), Earl Robinson (resident), and newly elected City Council Members A'Lynne Robinson and Eric Hewitt.

And thanks to WILX for running a story about the event on the six o'clock news, Nov. 11, addressing the prevention of violence against women!

The Safety Union is a problem-solving session about neighborhood safety and preventing violence against women on Sun., Nov. 11, 3-5pm at the Gone Wired Café, 2021 E. Michigan Ave., Lansing.

Neighbors from across the city and anti-violence advocates will sound off progress about safety goals, share challenges, and problem-solve strategies. Resources will be provided by advocates and officials.

Confirmed guests include:
* Addition! Eric Hewitt - New Council Member for Ward 1
* Addition! The NorthStar Center - from the Eastside

* Robin Mulligan - daughter of murder victim Stanley Patlu
* A'Lynne Robinson - At-Large Rep. for Lewton Rich Neighborhood Association
* Julie Thorne - loved one of murder victim Richard Leach
* Jillian Pastoor - Community Relations Coordinator for EVE Inc.
* Sharon Dade - Social Services Senior Manager for Volunteers of America Michigan
* MSU Safe Place
* Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner Program
* Chris Singer - Michigan Peace Team
* Sgt. Joseph Dionise - LPD, North Precinct
* Matthew Mathis - Legal Advisor for the LPD
* Carol Wood - At-Large Council Member

FORMAT

There won't be any speakers as there were at the SPEAK OUT for Safety. Instead, there will be a lot of conversation in a large group and in small groups.

The specific topics under the umbrella of neighborhood safety and preventing violence against women will depend upon who attends the event. Individuals will bring their own agendas in that sense. The advocates and officials joining us are bringing resources and, hopefully, will serve as resources themselves in problem solving challenges that residents are facing.

The session stands behind the fact that we as a community are able to assist one another in pursuing our safety goals, even when we come across "a brick wall" in the process.

  • The first half hour will be an informal time for individuals to make their own introductions, as well as for residents to seek out the present advocates and officials.

  • By 3:30pm, the large group dialogue will begin to identify specific issues that people are "bringing to the table."

  • Then small groups will deliberate the issues raised by the present persons.

In small groups, I will encourage a "talking circle" format, where crosstalk waits until every person has had their say on the matter at hand. If time allows, we will debrief as a large group before concluding the session.

Tuesday, November 6, 2007

Attention! Exhibition!

Updated Nov. 7

Nancy Allen told me about an exhibit now at Cooley Law School's lobby. Stacie Dubay Counseling Supervisor at EVE Inc., is the inspiration behind the piece: a door that illustrates life on the inside of violence and life on the outside or other side.

Check it out while you can! The building is open until 11pm, and the exhibit definitely will be there through Nov. 8, though it may be kept until Nov. 12.

Ms. Allen is a newcomer to the East Side Poetry Open Mic, who was recently published by the Sunshine Lady Foundation and is a survivor of violence.

Saturday, November 3, 2007

Vigilance

GALLERY WALK SUNDAYS

I look forward to Deena Tyler's performance and book release of Ready for Me: Rough and Raw at the Grand Cafe/ Sir Pizza of Lansing in Old Town tomorrow, Nov.4, on Gallery Walk Sunday. The show starts at 2pm and is free.

Don't miss the Survivin' & Thrivin' open mic I'm hosting after her show!

And my official release of Blame It on Eve! is December 2, also on Gallery Walk Sunday at the Grand Cafe, starting at 2pm with open mic following.


IN REVIEW

October offered our community a wealth of Domestic Violence Awareness events. Thanks to Relief After Violence Encounter in Owosso, MI, for inviting me to perform at their candlelight vigil October 1.

Unfortunately due to health reasons, I canceled my out-of-state performances. But I performed at Lansing's candlelight vigil organized by EVE Inc. and partners on Oct. 30, with Deena Tyler for our second year performing as Survivin' & Thrivin'.

We were honored to perform in the company of musician Barb Barton, who also graced the SPEAK OUT for Safety on Oct. 1. Here are MSU's State News articles for vigils this year and last year.

Later on Oct. 30, I hosted the East Side Poetry open mic at Magdalena's Tea House, where first-time open-mic poets read alongside regulars.

Thanks Miguel, Nancy, Jonathan, Deena, Neil, and Jessi for sharing your poems! And thanks to the moral-support folks who kept showing up throughout the night.


PROMOTING PREVENTION

I still am urging city officials to put preventing violence against women on Lansing's crime fighting agenda. Last Monday, Oct. 29, I returned to City Council to make public comment, including a poem inspired by interactions with local officials.

The comments I gave city officials with the poem "VAW" is available at this index (file: CityCouncilMtg29oct07.pdf), as is my follow-up letter from Oct. 30 (file: LetterCityHall_30oct07.pdf).

The Safety Union gathers on Sunday, Nov. 11, at the Gone Wired Cafe from 3 to 5pm. Neighbors from across Lansing, anti-violence advocates, and officials are deliberating neighborhood safety and preventing violence against women.

We are sounding off our challenges about pursuing safety goals and will problem-solve strategies with one another. Also, resources will be offered by community groups and officials.